1.What is your name and tell us a little about yourself.
I’m Victoria Baxter, and I’m a dating coach for Christian women, an accountant, and the founder of a local nonprofit organization. I’m a single parent to 2 teenagers. One is my outgoing, lively 14 year old daughter.
2. Did you have any expectations or reservations of being a girl mom from things you saw and heard?
I always knew I wanted children in general. Naturally, I wanted to experience what it would be like having a son and a daughter, and I’ve been blessed to experience just that. The reservations are those that I think most parents have when it comes to girls. You want to ensure you protect them. Obviously, protecting boys and sons matter as well. But society has taught us that men are to protect, among other things. Who are they to protect? Well, girls. LOL Females. Women. So there’s the idea that girls are to be protected. Not that they can’t hold their own, but it’s a crazy world. So my reservation and hesitations of having a daughter, along with ever having more, was ensuring she’d be protected.
3. What has been the most challenging and the most rewarding thing about being a #GirlMom?
The most challenging thing about having a daughter is having to deal with aspects of yourself every day. It’s like looking in a mirror and dealing with yourself. They say your kids will be like you, x 10. LOL My daughter is bright, fun-loving, kind, spontaneous, random, and funny. But she’s also opinionated, strongheaded, curious, bold, and not afraid to speak and stand on what she believes in. She takes risks. She’s an “act now, think later” kind of person. She stands up for the underdogs. She’s not afraid to be different. And I can say that everything that I just mentioned can truly sum up the challenges and the rewards.
4. If you could write a note to your daughter right now in this very moment, what would it say?
My note would read, “Dearest daughter, I love you more than you’ll know. I haven’t always verbalized it with words, as I’ve always been more about action and protection. Know that I am proud of who you are, ALL of you. You keep me on my toes, but I truly wouldn’t change it. People say that, but I mean it. Because of you, I strive to be better. Literally from the moment you were pulled out and I heard, “it’s a girl!” I knew that I would never be the same again. Because you’d be watching and I wanted you to always see me, and want to be even better. Continue being you! Even when it’s questioned, chastised, or mocked. Because while I’m proud of you now, I’m excited to see who you’ll become. I love you!”
5. How and where can people connect with you?
People can connect at www.newthinglifecoaching.com There they’ll find links to social media and my podcast. You can also learn more about the organization at www.godisloveinc.org
Victoria Baxter, The New Love Strategist